Last Sunday at MCC we talked about selling ourselves to porn. Sometimes I hear people say “What is the big deal if I look at porn. I’m not hurting anyone.”
I have a group of friends who are recovering porn addicts. I asked them the same question. Here is what they said, word-for-word.
“God wants your heart. Porn goes into your mind and down into the heart. You’re messing up that relationship, which should be the most important.”
Porn will make you think less of yourself & others. Thus lowering your self-esteem to drastic levels.
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Porn will create an ever-increasing hunger for more. Causing you to subconsciously ignore/diss others and destroy their relationship with you… in the end-alienating you.
Porn creates unfair expectations for your future spouse. Porn is manufactured sex… It’s not real.
If you want to constantly feel trapped and chained by the enemy, if you want to give up your money to something that will make you feel like trash, if you want to make your significant other feel worthless and you’re ok with possibly losing your relationship over it, if you want to constantly feel like you’re living two different lives, and if you want to constantly struggle with self-worth, emptiness, and distance from God, go for it.
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If he can view porn like a gentleman, maintain a healthy relationship and avoid objectify or perverting interactions with women then my hat is off to him. It leads to a dark spiraling abyss. Let me know how that works out for him.
People who stand in justified defiance have a tendency to watch their world shrink.
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For me, I’m less likely to engage my wife physically and more likely to go places in my thought life when I see an attractive woman when I’ve been in a compromising place related to pornography. My wife is then confused and I don’t even want to think what real women would think if they knew where my thoughts have been about other women or them.
If you are struggling with an addition to porn I highly recommend the resources from www.xxxchurch.com, especially the free accountability software.
In some cases of porn addiction, it may be necessary to process your struggles with a professional counselor. Addictions are often connected to a deep heart issue. If that is the case, you need to get to the source of the matter.
Be encouraged. It is possible to battle – and win – an addition to porn. I have seen men make great strides. It takes a fight, but it can be done, especially with the help of God.
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